Your conversation coach
Someone has sent the message that makes your thumbs start typing. Kind Regards reads it with you, lets you say what you really think, and helps you reply in words the other person will actually hear.
App StoreComing soonFree to try. No account needed.
A coach, not a ghostwriter. Your words, with the regret taken out.
How it works
Paste it in, or share it straight from the app it arrived in, and say who it's from. The coach tells you, in a line or two, what in it lands. If it's hot, it suggests twenty minutes away before you answer, and holds it for you.
Type or talk, as angry as you like. Nobody sees this but the coach. Then pick what you actually want from it, from a few options drawn from both messages, or say it in your own words.
A reply in your own words, with the lines you'd regret taken out and one plain sentence on why each change works. Copy it, send yours anyway, or sleep on it.
When a message isn't hot, it gets straight to the reply. The screens above are the real app, with a made-up message.
It learns them
Every reply teaches it something about the person you're talking to: what sets them off, what reaches them, how to come at the next message. Your partner, your ex, your mum, your manager, your fifteen-year-old. Each one gets replies shaped to them.
The research
In studies that filmed couples working through a disagreement, how the first three minutes went predicted how the whole conversation ended.1 So the coach puts most of its effort into how your reply opens.
Researchers who measured heart rates during arguments found that once the heart passes about 100 beats a minute, people stop taking in what's said.2 Their rule of thumb is a break of at least twenty minutes.3 In a study of 600 angry people, those who kept going over it came out angrier than those who sat quietly,4 and a review of 154 studies found that slow breathing helps and venting doesn't.5 That's the hold: the message out of sight, and something to do that settles your body.
Brain-imaging studies found that putting a feeling into words quietens the brain's alarm response.6 That's why the coach asks you to say it exactly how you feel it before anything is rewritten.
This is research into how people talk and argue, not a study of this app. Kind Regards is built on it; it doesn't promise you a result. The coach also draws on published practice in negotiation, co-parenting, parenting and work, written in our own words.
Privacy
Your messages are used to write your reply. Not to train AI, not for ads, never sold.
Drafts and replies delete themselves after thirty days.
Delete a person and everything about them goes with them.
When you talk instead of type, your phone turns it into text itself. The recording never leaves it.
Try it without signing up. Sign in only when you want it to remember your people.
If a message reads as a threat or abuse, it won't write a reply. It shows you where to get help instead.
Price
Free
$0
Your first three replies, for up to three people. Every feature. No card, no clock.
Subscription
$4.99 a month
or $34.99 a year
Unlimited replies and people. Pause it when things are quiet, and cancel any time in your Apple settings.
Prices in US dollars; the App Store charges in your own currency. When the free replies run out, nothing is taken away: your people and what the coach has learned about them stay.
Questions
It works from your words and keeps them wherever they aren't the problem. It cuts the lines you'd regret and tells you why. You can always send your own instead.
Nothing in the reply says so. It's your message, sent by you.
It's the opposite, by rule. It helps you ask for what you want in a way the other person can say yes to. It won't use guilt, fear, money or the children as leverage. If your draft does, it cuts those lines and tells you why.
Then it won't coach it. If a message reads as a threat, as control, or as a risk to a child, it shows you where to get help instead, every time.
Only what you paste or share into it. It never sees anything else on your phone.
No. It's a coach for one conversation at a time. If you need more than that, please talk to someone qualified.
Yes. Managers, colleagues, clients and customers, and emails as well as messages.
Coming soon to iPhone. Email us if you'd like to know the day it lands.
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